Speaking · Workshops · Facilitation
I speak and facilitate on conflict, connection and expansion. Rooms do not sit still for it. I take people past the edge of what they were willing to do in front of each other and bring them back lit up. They leave seen, loved, and brave.
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Entrepreneur OrganizationFaena Miami BeachModern OM MiamiSacred Space Miami
Four ways to bring me in
Every one of these is built around your audience rather than delivered off a shelf. I ask what the room is actually carrying before I decide what happens in it.
Thirty to sixty minutes. Personal stories, the research, and one live demonstration the room can feel from their seats. People leave with language for something they have been living without words for.
Half a day or a full day. The room works in pairs and small groups on real material, not hypotheticals. This is where the tools actually transfer, because people practice them in front of each other.
Several days rather than a slot on an agenda. Leadership offsites, couples retreats, men's retreats. I build the arc of the days around what the group is actually carrying, and I stay for the close instead of flying out after my session.
Easy to talk to, quick to the substance, and comfortable going somewhere real on camera. Thirteen years as an attorney before this work, a book on conflict, and a decade of rooms. There is usually more than one episode in it.
What I speak about
Each of these can run as a keynote or open out into a workshop. If your room needs something else, tell me what they are dealing with and I will build it.
Why the standard advice fails at the exact moment you need it, and what to do instead. The core method from Win Together, taught live, with the room practising it.
For any audienceThe six things every human is quietly asking for, in every room they walk into. Once you can name them you can give them, at home and at work.
Keynote · leadershipFor founders and leadership rooms. What an unresolved relationship at home actually costs a business, and why this is a performance conversation, not a soft one.
EO · leadership · conferencesWhat I actually do
Most people walk into a room carrying parts of themselves they have never had permission to show. Tenderness, in a lot of men. Anger, in a lot of women. Grief that has been waiting years for somewhere safe enough to set it down.
Given a room that can hold it, people say things out loud they did not know they were carrying, and do things for each other they would never have guessed they had in them. Sometimes that gathers around one person. More often it moves peer to peer all night, in pairs and small groups, with no centre at all.
The people giving are changed as much as the people receiving. That is the part nobody expects, and it is the part that stays. In Miami I have become known for building rooms where a few hundred people arrive as strangers and leave as something else.
See it for yourself
Twelve minutes, at the end of a hard kundalini class, on the summer solstice in Miami. This is the part that is difficult to describe in a proposal and obvious the moment you watch a room do it.
Solstice gathering · 31 sec
What it looks like in practice
A room of founders and their partners, most of whom had never done anything like this at a business event. We opened with the six things everyone in the room was quietly asking for, then put them in pairs to practice the conflict protocol on something real.
Nobody watched a slide deck for an hour. Within twenty minutes the room was working, and by the end people were standing up to say things out loud they had not said sitting down.
The experiential one
Men on one side, women on the other, facing each other. Appreciation, apology and frustration, out loud, across that line, usually to a stranger who is standing in for somebody else. People cry. Men apologise to women they have never met for things they did to someone they loved. It is the format people write to me about longest afterwards.
Beyond the stage
When a conference room is the wrong shape for what a group actually needs. Candles, a circle, sometimes music, always a beginning and a close. People put something down in these rooms, and the ones doing the holding are changed as much as the one being held.
Often the right closing night for a retreat or an offsite that has already done its harder work.
A few hundred people who arrived as strangers, pointed at something higher than any one of them came for. Evenings on healing, on connection, on the things a city does not usually make room to say out loud.
In Miami this is what I have become known for, and it is the format with the least precedent, so it takes the most conversation to build.
From the rooms
"Unparalleled in its ability to unite women and men in an honest, comfortable, encouraging space."
Monica
"There really aren't that many opportunities for men to learn how to hold space for women in the world. Sacred Union is that space."
Pablo, founder
"I literally felt so safe in this man's presence I started to cry. It just opened my eyes to how accessible it can be to feel safe in someone's presence."
Tanai
"A profound shift had taken place in all of us that night. One that makes us better humans, more compassionate for ourselves and others."
Marina, founder
"I didn't expect the amount of tears that flowed and how healing it was to confront the most important male figures in my life. It was liberating."
Cat
"It brought me to tears at some points and the biggest smile at other moments. I believe what Jeff has created is the way for men and women to really grow in life and evolve together."
Rosie
"I was brought to tears as men and women were facing each other, appreciating and apologizing to the opposite sex in their life. I was able to release a lot of resentment."
Carla
"I felt safe, grounded, and connected. It was vulnerable and beautiful to be able to express myself so openly. Highly recommend this experience."
Olivia
"Thank you for creating a safe space to explore depth in, to practice boundaries and intimately connect with another. A night to forever be grateful for."
Danielle
Working with me on an event
We talk about your audience, what they are carrying, and what you actually want them walking out with. Then I tell you which format fits.
The talk gets shaped to the audience. A room of founders and a room of couples get the same method and a different session.
Bio, headshots, session description and social assets, sent over as soon as we have a date. Books available for attendees.
Next step
Twenty five minutes. Who is in it, what they are dealing with, and what you want different when they leave. If I am the right person I will say so, and if I am not I will tell you who is.
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